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Banana Moments Banana Moments newsletter and website offers information, insights and encouragement to strengthen the parent-child relationship a cyber-powered world. When kids believe they can Google everything they need to know, they are conditioned differently for authority. This service helps parents lead children with confidence in an environment where authority is more relational and less ascribed.

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Why cyber parenting requires us to shed fear and worry

Apr 1, 2013
Why cyber parenting requires us to shed fear and worry

...In this networked environment, there are three realms of security: Physical (our person and belongings, home and car) Cyber (smart phones/social media and other applications) Hearts and minds (beliefs, values, emotions) Fear sometimes keeps us hyper-focused on the physical and cyber realms of security because it...

Parenting children who know too much

Mar 25, 2013
Parenting children who know too much

In this “it is all about me” world of texting and social media, children can know way too much for their own good. More importantly, they are easily conditioned to keep the parent out of the equation when they are searching for answers and they risk becoming lost in the faulty-thinking of peer communities...

Lessons from an ancient cyber mom: Embrace the amateur spirit

Mar 18, 2013
Lessons from an ancient cyber mom: Embrace the amateur spirit

By my definition, an “ancient cyber mom” was able to control Internet and media access via a computer and/or television stationed somewhere in the home. When the mobile phone hit the home front circa 2004 - that is when things really changed.

Does keeping your child connected to you via mobile phone make him safe?

Mar 11, 2013
Does keeping your child connected to you via mobile phone make him safe?

Mary Lisa Patton, BA, CADCI, works with children and families at Therapeutic Solutions 360 in Roseville. “I have noticed that children are getting mobile phones at a younger age so parents can stay in contact with them,” Patton said. “Unfortunately some parents are using the mobile phone as a way to control their children...

Dads and drugs in American life: 2013 Winter Edition of Family Business Quarterly

Mar 8, 2013
Dads and drugs in American life: 2013 Winter Edition of Family Business Quarterly

As an American mother raised in the 1960's and 1970's I have observed that the role of the father in our culture has been minimized as Mom took on central prominence. Remember the Virgina Slims cigarette commercials, and the campaigns that women can have it all and do it all? If you can do it...

The value of fatherhood in America: Are the dads missing in action?

Mar 8, 2013
The value of fatherhood in America: Are the dads missing in action?

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The past few months, the topic of manhood and fatherhood has surfaced in my fieldwork – especially in the wake of the school shootings, and the questions raised in the headlines about the...

Parenting teens in recovery requires a heart at peace

Mar 8, 2013
Parenting teens in recovery requires a heart at peace

According to Lessin, traditional treatment for drug addiction ignores the parents and family, and if the family is not engaged in the recovery process, and the parents do not understand their role, the child will not stay in recovery.

America’s love affair with drugs and the impact on youth

Mar 7, 2013
America’s love affair with drugs and the impact on youth

As a youth substance abuse prevention activist, over the past ten years, I have come to appreciate that the confusion and fear over the nature of drug and alcohol addiction - especially with minors - has created a code of silence among adults, and driven youth drug and alcohol abuse to levels so extreme...

How to help children be realistic with career goals

Mar 7, 2013
How to help children be realistic with career goals

With skyrocketing unemployment rates and millions of jobs lost to China, India, and other countries overseas in the last ten years, it’s no wonder we as parents are worried about our children’s future careers. Gone it seems are the traditional lifetime career paths, focused on primarily one in depth area of study. Today’s work...

Reform advice for the over functioning parent

Mar 7, 2013
Reform advice for the over functioning parent

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Psychotherapist Debbie Pincus, MS, LMHC, works with families and children who struggle with the modern day collision courses of the parent-child relationship. She observes that today’s generation of parents is closer to their children and so it is harder to separate lives.

This blurring of the...